Dr. Norm Rosenthal, suthor of WinterBlues, says his experience with seasonal affective disorder has taught him to treat winter as an adventure. I though of that as I climbed over the 5 foot high snow bank lining the parking lot to get to work. As I climbed over the bank I remembered by high adventure trip mountain climbing in Montana. It brought back great memories and again distracted me from the worry of too much snow. Give it a try to foster hope that you have what it takes to survive and thrive. Suprise yourself today by creating good thoughts.

Given the pressure on our time and our tendency to apply the “quick fix” to problems, it could be that we short change ourselves by not sharing how things are for us. I see this problem with couples who have not stopped long enough to check in with each other and find out more about their worries and concerns. After this pattern gets put in place, resentment starts to build when our partner does’nt know “how we are”. After a while of this type of inattention, people feel neglected. So, next time someone asks you that vital question….what if you experiment and see what response you get. Are they really listening? Do they offer to help? Could they give you a word of encouragement or enlightenment? It may be worth a try to see if we can connect more effectively and help relieve the burden of feeling alone. Write to me and tell me what happens with your experiment. I’ll try it too and report back.

 I’m wondering how that is for us as Human Beings.  Are we inventing, creating and producing new aspects of ourselves in short time frames?  Are we evolving in our skills, our human technologies, and our ways of thinking about the world around us?   There is pressure to move fast.  I’m wondering what that is doing to us.. what is the effect on our Being Human ?   I get excited by new discoveries in brain science, neurolinguist programming for communication science and for adaptabiliy in relationships.

How about you? How are you doing with the changes you see around you?

Have you seen the YouTube show called Shift Happens 2009?  Go to YouTube to view it – you’ll be amazed!

What do you think now?

Isn’t it interesting how a visual image can trigger a memory and emotion?  In our counseling work at Journey Counseling we help guide people to identify some of the missing  pieces that could make  life more interesting and create those feelings of being safe and loved.  Relationships struggle when we get out of balance and assign too much responsibility to another for our well being.  It is delicate trying to accommodate the needs of others and also identify and meet our own needs.  

If the “display case” of your life isn’t  showing off a  beautiful collection of interesting relationships, then come in to work on improving the contributions you are making to yourself and to add sparkle to the lives of others who share your life with you.

My hope for you, gentle reader, is that you are doing what you need to in an effort to take care of yourself emtionally and physically during this stressful time.   Our Fargo City Mayor has requested that everyone take time off from the flood fight to enjoy the Easter holiday and then on Monday we can start worrying about the flood fighting efforts again. 

There is concern that that effects of this threat is having psychological impacts on our mental health.  Be careful to take extra precautions against accidents and being overtired.  This sustained worry and physical strain will have an effect on our mental health.  Be good to yourself and those around you.  If you are suffering from the effects of the prolonged stress, Journey Counseling is here for you.  Call for an appointment.  You will feel relief from getting to look at how this threat of flood and living in a disaster zone is wearing on you.  We are already seeing an increase in PTSD symptoms, relationship conflict and health impairing stress effects.  Please let us know that you want to get some relief and our Counseling group can see you and talk about how this is impacting your ability to sleep and keep your mind on work.  These are huge distractions for people in our valley who are experiencing flood related issues.

Bring your lunch and join us for lively, fun, free communication training.

Lunch and Learn – Communication Series

Great Opportunity to update your communication skills(Who can’t benefit from being better understood?!)

Bring your own lunch and join us for a lively, free informative session. 

 Join Gail Nelson and Gordy Lee of Journey Counseling in the 4th floor Conference Room

(118 Broadway, Black Building, Downtown Fargo)

Each session is 40 minutes  12:10 – 12:50

Wednesday, August 20th          What do you mean by that?  Getting Clarity in Conflict

Learn how “what we say” often hides “what we mean” in a conflict.By Gail Nelson, M.ED., LAPC  

Wednesday, August 27th      Navigating the Cycle of Conflict

Discover 5 stages of predictable behavior in a relationship conflict.

By Gail Nelson, M.ED., LAPC  

Wednesday, September 3^rd       Back to School: Relationships 101

Refresh your skills on how to improve your closest relationships.

By Gordy Lee, M. Ed., M.Div. 

Wednesday, September 10^th          Managing Relationship Conflict

“I thought we were friends” – what now?  Repairing a damaged relationship.

By Gordy Lee, M. Ed., M.Div. 

Questions?       Call Gail Nelson 701-356-5544

Email your registration to gail@bluemoontraining.com

Or just show up and surprise us!  

Think about it for yourself.  When are you happy? 

 Do you notice when you are happy?  Do you say “Wow, right now I am happy!” 

 Or do we more often only look for happiness out of our unhappiness, misery, depression and loneliness? 

The skill then, would be to cultivate happiness by noticing the absence of unhappiness.  We could benefit from deciding to be happy and allowing the self to celebrate this “feeling good” state more each day.  If we took stock more often of the stuff that is going right – we would be happy more often. 

When it comes to happiness, it really is the case of “we are what we think about” as Earl Nightingale was promoting decades ago.   We have all the tools and skills to cultivate more happiness in our daily experience. 

What’s stopping you right now from celebrating all that is going well in this moment? 

As a corporate trainer, I know that an audience can respond very quickly when coached to call up the feeling of happiness.  I often direct groups of people to increase the happiness in the room by the simple act of deciding to be happy.  As a counselor, I know that we often need help getting some of our “junk” out of the way so that we have room for happiness.   Happiness can get crowded out of our life if left unattended and uninvited.

What can you do right now to invite happiness into your present moment?